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Emily's avatar

Love this guidance so much 🩷 Many of us put an incredible amount of pressure on ourselves! I often feel like I need to give my friends/family a restaurant-quality experience when they come over, but... why!?! This article is a lovely reminder that it’s OK to ease up on that pressure so we can better focus on the people we are spending time with.

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Kate Hill's avatar

I love cooking. And I love hosting. Over time I have managed to figure out a lot of what you advise and so great that you're passing it on. Making your guests feel truly welcome is the key-- smile, hug, invite, offer something to drink, or let the first ones welcome the newly arrived. My good friends know they will come early to help set up the drinks, set the table, light candles or stir a pot.I never try to do it all myself. The party starts in the kitchen and then I am part of it, too.

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Tamar Adler's avatar

I know I'm late on this--I'm still getting the hang of how to interact with this column. But this advice is so key, I think. Being able to say "yes" when someone asks if they can do something is a wonderful part of hosting. I think it's a vow of sorts, that you're all in it together.

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Kate Hill's avatar

Yes, a vow is a lovely way to hold this thought. It’s where the words host and guest intersect-- at the table.

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Claire & her leftovers's avatar

Yes to letting people help if they want to!! Tossing the salad, opening the wine, setting the table, so much can be delegating to willing guests. And with this they feel even more included and at home, especially if they don't know anyone else

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Tamar Adler's avatar

Exactly. It's inclusive--it makes you all a team. Here here.

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Lisa's avatar

I have felt both sides.. frenziedf/anxious and blissfully relaxed hosting. It is a practice. My guests are often a few besties where we take turns of home setting and primary meal, the rest is pot luck. I love Tamar's childhood experience to see that hosting is Both-And.

Give grace, receive grace.

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Lindsay M's avatar

This is awakening in me an ardent desire to host at the earliest opportunity!

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Jeanne G's avatar

I love the story of your father’s pants, so funny and classy at once! Thank you for sharing all of this advice!

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Claudia's avatar

Great advice!

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Anja Skoglund's avatar

Everyone is every type ❤️

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Rachel Hellesto's avatar

God I love this

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Amphy777's avatar

Absolutely brilliant!

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